His coping ladder · how support lands
Four corners, two moves each
- Only Corner 4 helps — the other three don't.
- Empower (share what he can't carry alone), don't enable (carry what's his).
- Each corner has a passive (being) and active (doing) half.
Cloud's four corners of connection
4True connection
Caring and honest. Fuels growth. (Empowering.)The goal
3Pseudo-good
Warm but false — soothing, not growing. (Enabling.)
2Bad connection
He's left feeling judged or "less-than." (Control.)
1Disconnected
No real connection. Withdrawn, absent. (Withdrawal.)
Start
Meet him where he is
Tap a rung for where he is · a block for how to help.
He can move down a rung anytime — stay with him there.